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Choices?

8/26/2014

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The year was 1973 and glorious summer vacation was almost upon us. I was just about to make that all important transition from junior to senior high school. My best friend Danny and I were out walking the green belts of University Park one afternoon as we often did, hoping to be abducted by some sexually deprived housewife looking to teach a couple of young boys a lesson or three, when we happened upon a group of onlookers clustered on a residential street where a big yellow school bus and several police cars were parked. We stood there and watched as a bunch of kids that we knew from the neighborhood were being led in handcuffs out of our friend Pat’s house and put on the bus. Pat’s house was known as a “party house” around the neighborhood because Pat’s folks pretty much let him do as he pleased.  Just then, Danny turned to me and said, “Hey, isn’t that Terry wearing a badge?” Terry was a kid that we both had seen around town quite a bit over the last year and he appeared to be leading the whole operation. We quickly surmised that he must have been an undercover NARC all along.

Before the end of the school year, we were all called into the assembly hall to hear about a new type of high school that was going to open the following year named S.E.L.F. (Secondary Educational Learning Facilitator). We were told that they were experimenting with a new style of education called an alternative school that would give students an opportunity to learn from nontraditional teaching methods and the resources to excel at their own rate, but we all knew that the real push to open this new school was to have a place to stash all those kids that had gotten caught up in the big drug bust. This new school sounded interesting, but that sort of thing wasn’t for me. My plan was to become the next track and field star at University high school.

That fall, I tried out and made the track team. As a high school freshman, I was studying hard and practicing even harder. I was getting excellent times in the short sprints and the attention of my coaches. One day between classes, I noticed a couple of my junior high buddies hanging out in the parking lot. Everyone knew that the parking lot was where kids went to smoke cigarettes between classes, but I didn’t smoke and I figured I’d just give these guys a hard time about how stupid it was to smoke cigarettes. As I approached my friends, I noticed that the vice principal was headed in our direction. I figured this was going to get a little nasty and I didn’t want any part of that, so I turned and headed in the opposite direction. Just then I heard the vice principal yell my name. “Sanford, get back over here.” He started pointing at kids and screaming “You, you, you” and then pointed to me and said, “Report to my office for smoking”. I calmly approached him and said, “Sir, I’m on the track team and I don’t smoke.”  He looked me dead in the eyes and said “Don’t lie to me son, I saw you smoking”. I then emphatically repeated my earlier statement.  At that point, he just turned and headed towards his office. I then snatched the pack of cigarettes from one of my friend’s flannel shirt pocket, pulled one out, lit it up, raised my middle finger high in the air and exclaimed “F@&# You Fish Face” (which was weird because that was the nickname we used for our junior high school vice principal). Before that day was over, I had quit the track team, enrolled at S.E.L.F. high school and taken up smoking, a habit that would plague me for the next 25 years.

Somebody once said that our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made. Who knows?  Maybe if I had reported to the vice principal’s office that day and just accepted whatever punishment he handed out, I would have gone on to medal in the Olympics, but what I do know is that I wouldn’t have experienced all the amazing things that this life has put on my table or met all the wonderful people who have helped to shape the person I am proud to be today.

The one thing I know for sure is that regret is just a pointless waste of energy and ain’t no dude got time for that.


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Brock
9/10/2014 06:52:49 am

So it's true I see. All my buddies in college have made mention of the fact that impotent, old, morons do indeed start blogs.

Thank whatever that you old bastards are in your dieing years. You're obsolete Sir, just face it. My generation of Millenial men, far younger and so more sexually relevant for sure, are wiping oit your dumb old ideals of 'the rugged sexist manly man' LOL Your a generation of self-serving serving serpents, unrepentant in your blindness, bigotries, and myriad of failed relationships, most importantly with all your estranged children. Old dudes like you are SO pathetic. We laugh at you as you try to think of yourselves as those younger versions of your selves. We treat women better, POC's better, and we are shoving you slowly offf into obscurity where you belong. We are even taking the women your age LOL Know why? Well, our sexual stamina for one but also because the older women you lot try to leave behind are fantastically sensitive, intelligent, caring people who are still vivacious and adventurous, whereas all you old limp guys are bitter, cynical, tired, and long sense past your 'use by' date LOL I LOVE having a 'cougar' on my arm when you shriveled up old farts are around and it makes me and my friends feel great to know we, the Youngs, are helping them feel good about themselves again. Because you morons tried to live in and create a world that was hostile to women just because they got older. You really are a bunch of useless jerks. How many divorces? How many abandoned kids while you tried to be 'Playboys' a la Hugh 'I'm a loser' Heffner? YOU left us a world ravaged by your violent minds, insane debts, greed run amok, environmental exploitation. You're exploiters and objectifiers. You can't even lay claim to being war heros like OUR generation now can. Not since the Persian gulf and WW 2 have there been better, sacrificing men. YOUR generation of 'free love' and discos and swinging and cocaine and yuppie b.s. was just a bunch of self-centered losers who indulged themselves at the expense of others. So now we're fixing your failures, adopting your female peers since you're so afraid of them,(you should be...they're infinitely more interesting and intelligent than yourselves...no wonder you can't keep them or make them happy...that's cool, we got this!), and will teach our sons that being a 'man' doesn't mean exploiting others with selfish, self-glorifying rhetoric or behavior.

Yep, me and my Millenial peers will triumph over you Gramps, so go rest easy as you sit alone n the dark, drinking yourselves to sleep, and bitterly complaining about the New World, the 21st Century, that's passing you by. Your departure won't be missed by js lr yoir estranged kids, ex-wives, or the Earth itself. But hey, keep choking down the Viagra and pulling hard on the little soldier to see if he can still spit. Maybe you can find some chick desperate for money, or go sit in some seedy strip joint leering at the women your daughters age. Or, would that be grand daughters nlw? Either way, you're desperate attempts to stay 'relevant' are your earned Karma for having been The Most Selfish Generation Of Men that U.S history, and the world, has EVER seen. THAT is your legacy.
Well, I have to hit the gym and then the books. Later we'll be helping some of oir girlfriends in a feminist protest rally. Yep, Millenial MEN aren't unmanned by being feminists ourselves nor fighting BESIDE the lovely women we love and respect.

Respect. Yeah, I think that's something your generation never fully understood. Pity.

Laters..

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Maureen Corbeski
9/18/2014 10:28:18 pm

Wow...well written, touching and very inspirational. At Kripalu, I was introduced to your awesome verbal storytelling skills and after "reading" this story, I was introduced to your excellent written storytelling skills. One suggestion is that you include more specifics about time of year e.g. the year was 1973, May, and then instead of Fall, it was September of that year or again of 1973. Again, well done!

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    In my formative years, I was lucky enough to attend an amazing high school modeled after the freedom school from the Billie Jack films. The curriculum included outdoor education, pottery and organic farming and emphasized values like creativity, self awareness and a strong sense of community. I spent several summers traveling from show to show with The Grateful Dead and found that not only could I beat the crap out of a plastic bucket in a drum circle, I was also quite the imported beer salesman. My early career started off in the eighties driving limousine for posers, drug dealers and wannabe rock stars in Los Angeles. In the late eighties, I was introduced to the former owner of Paradise Lakes Nudist Resort who had just seduced and proposed to my roommate while she was on vacation in Florida. Fred took me aside one afternoon  and told me, “I like you, kid and since I’m taking your roommate and I’m pretty sure you can’t afford this beach rental on your own, why not come on out to Florida? I’ll find you a place to stay, give you a job and you’ll be surrounded by naked women”. So I loaded up my truck and moved to Paradise. Lakes, that is. Swimmin’ pools. Porno stars. (insert banjo solo here).

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